Okay, parents, it’s that time of year again. You are once again tasked with finding great toys without breaking the bank, hoping and praying your children will actually play with them as they are intended — not simply use their eventual mess of parts to dump out all over the floor. Been there, done that!

Having 5 kids of my own, I’ve bought a toy or thirty. And it seems to get more challenging all the time. Much of the Target and Walmart toy aisles are filled with toys that light up, sing, or dance, and not much more.

This novelty wears off fast, and although some kids may enjoy the intrinsic value of a good stimmy toy, they don't necessarily allow for interactive play, let alone create an opportunity for parent-led autism therapy and skill development.

We are also inundated with character toys: Paw Patrol, Peppa Pig, Disney everything, and although these toys can be great for creative, imaginative play, if your child is not ready for that, they can be a bust and a colossal waste of money (and precious space in your home).

In the spirit of avoiding that this year — and every year — I've put together a few rules to live by when making your toy list so you won't have to check it twice.

1. Less is More: Focus on Great Toys

Trust me on this one. I have many children, and I have learned through experience. Every year I fight that nagging feeling that I don’t have enough under the tree for each child. But, if I give in and run out for a few more things, I always regret it.

Less is truly more. A handful of great toys far outweighs a ton of crap.

My kids enjoy unwrapping presents, but it’s over in a flash. What they do the rest of the day is play with a few of their favorites. All the other extra junk, in my opinion, just spoils their favorite items—and blows up my house.

2. Buy Toys That Can Be Played with Independently and Interactively

One of my favorites is the Fat Brain Toys’ Spin Again Stacking Toy.

I have seen many kids enjoy this toy on Instagram, so it’s bonafide kid approved!

You can set your child up to play with this independently or engage interactively while incorporating first words, phrases, colors, matching, and much more!

Follow us on Instagram at @parentledrev to win a free Fat Brain Spin Again Stacking Toy compliments of Happy Ladders.

3. Send Family Members a Wish List

Don’t be afraid to send family members a wish list. Doing this will help you avoid toys your child is not interested in or may not be developmentally ready to enjoy. Most family members will appreciate ideas. I know mine do.

Now, there is always that grandma or aunt that wants to buy what they want your child to have, so whatever, that porcelain doll can just collect dust on the top shelf of the closet. Just say thanks and move on. :)

Why not use Christmas as a time to stock up on the toys you want your child to have, you know they are ready for and will get the most from?

Also, stock up on summer water toys at Christmas to avoid spending the extra cash in the summer.

Don’t be shy; create that wishlist for your child to give to your family today! Trust me, they will thank you!

4. Avoid the Toy Bin of Death

When Christmas is over, avoid the Toy Bin of Death! It is unlikely your child will be anything but as overwhelmed as you are when looking at it.

Confession: I have one too.

Although, I do pride myself on having only one. It’s an old train table, and man, does it hold a lot of junk!

As an early educator, I know this table of mixed-up toys is not conducive to helping my son play independently. It takes a lot of work and creativity for him to look at this mess and figure out something to do.

But you can’t win them all.

This Christmas, I'm not going to throw all the new toy pieces in here, at least for a few months. I will keep them separate on a shelf or even get small Tupperware bins or laundry bags to keep things together.

5. Keep Toys You Want to Use for Teaching Up and Away

By bringing toys out nice and organized, they maintain their value. They are new and exciting all over again. When kids have too much free access to these toys, the pieces can get lost, ruined, or become just plain boring.

With these helpful tips, you're sure to find the best toys for your kids this holiday season! And don't forget to check out our guide for some great toy options that are perfect for learning and fun.

6. Bonus Tip

Follow us on Instagram at @parentledrev for a chance to win a FREE Fat Brain Spin Again Stacking Toy compliments of Happy Ladders.

Want More Toy Ideas?

We’ve compiled a guide to the toys for teaching developmental skills that include books, toys, puzzles, and more. All are proven winners I’ve personally used with families in my previous in-home parent-led autism therapy practice.

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5 Tips to Save Your Time, Money, and Sanity When Buying Toys This Holiday Season